Socialization towards the future!!!

This chapter I believe was one of the most important so far. It talks about Socialization. There were a couple of reading and videos that make me understand us and me a little better. Hope it help you to understand.

Killing us softly is a live speech of Jean Killbourne, in which she mainly talks about women and advertising. This video for me wasn’t only interesting but also and eye opener. Killbourne showed how women is seen as an object rather than a subject whit all those sexist advertisements. It’s true that sex sells and I was aware that almost all the advertising have female image on it, which often looked perfect. But what I wasn’t aware of what these images do to the concept of a women .It is truly softly destroying us.

We have been trying to become an intangible thing. Why? By looking at this advertising us women are looking for a perfect look that is often not true, and because we cannot get it out self-esteem get terrible affect. Then we wonder why men are so shallow and chauvinist. Women are been stereotype in something that is not possible or true. But this does not only happened to us but we can see it in male as well

The video A Call for men exposed by Tony Porter, which is a live speech, showed how society is afraid of changing stereotypes, in this case man being fearless. Once again we all carry this imagine and opinion of what a men should be. But it’s correct? Whit thinking about it we support inequality in a way or another, by believing that male have to be stronger tougher and dominant.

Porter was talking about The Men Box, which basically carried the rules for being a man; pitifully I will say the box forgot that men just like women have feelings and needs. At the end we are all human beings. Porter claims that man should start liberating themselves from this stereotype, I strongly I agree and propose women to do the same.

Both videos where interesting and impacting. It showed that the agents of socialization (people and groups who teach our culture), meaning us must change our perspective of the world in other to provide more equality. Our customs norms believes and values are pass true generation to generations this is how socialization happens, but and whit this stereotypes of what we should be or what we should become are also establish. It’s hard to change this perspective since it’s something that we learned since we were born. 

We are bombard whit images of the perfect women been sexual and strong men being dominant. Our med’s I (our spontaneous creative and unpredictable self) is being destroy and replace for a meads me (since that learned from society) that media have created. What of men wants to cry or women don’t want to sexy? It will be a chaos for quite a bit since society is not use to this. Change is hard, but there is always room for resocialization (the replacement of old norms and behaviors), after all we are a society that works whit people wants a needs and these changes from time to time.

 (Guess Advertisement showing dominant male and sexual women)

Recently I read two articles one called The Retro Wife and the other Parent Socialization of Children , which not only catcher my eye but also made me reflect about the socialization my parents provide me and the one I want to provide to my future

The article explains how the agents of socialization , meaning the people and groups who teach us about our culture, shape the way we think , but not always reflect what we really desire as an individual. It shows that the life-course perspective,(age, time and place that shape our identity )can drastically change .In this case the article the Retro Wife talks about the role of women as a family taker and working field.  It claims that now days the majority of women wants to be successful in their working field and that they tend to leave family as a secondary. In the other hand it presents that there have been an increasing amount of women that started to avoid this trend and started to be proud family takers. It’s a biological determinism which means that our biology shapes our human behavior. Personally I believed that even though I love my dad as much as my mom , my mom was better for taking care of my and the household.in another hand the article Parent socialization of children showed the different types of parenting and what are the main elements to be a successful parent . It denoted that there should be a balance in power, control and support which I agree whit since this is how my parents raise me. It also denoted that there are three types of parenting Authoritative (rules but warm), Permissive (No rules) and Authoritarian (only rules).

Both articles provide numerous of examples and experiences of different women and cultures. This made me think about my aspirations for the future. I used to picture myself in 10 years from now as a professional women being successful at work, the second concern I always have was my family. I think that it’s because I like to be extraordinary in everything I do and like to be reward for it. But as I was reading first the article I realized that I could be extraordinary and rewarded also by being a family taker. As this family taker I’m going to apply the Authoritative parenting style, because I think its more balance. It also was the one my parents socialized with me and I think I had worked very well.

At the end I came up whit the idea that even though were are thought to live in an anticipatory socialization (individual practicing for future roles that are adopt by norms) there is always a chance to resocialization (Individual replace old norm whit new ones that will adapt better) , if that’s what you want.  It is true that we develop our  social self-depending on the  culture and structure that we live in    , but let’s remember that culture can change depending on people needs, that the power that we can all have .

(Me in the future a full time Autoritative parent after being a succesful business women)